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Bonnie Cleland 4/2/01

Sandy and I celebrated our 20 year anniversary (my 20 years working as his secretary) today - April 2, 2001.  The actual date is 4-1-01 (I'm sure Jascha D. would have had some kind of comment about April Fools Day being an appropriate anniversary date) but since that was a Sunday, we celebrated today.  We had an exceptionally nice lunch at Forte in Birmingham (thanks again Sandy!!).  One of the first things we saw as we drove into downtown Birmingham, close to Forte, was a mounted policeman, which I commented on.  Sandy told me that Jascha D. got a ticket from one of the mounted police.  I couldn't believe it, can you see that guy going after Jascha D.?  I wish we could have been there.  Anyway, if Sandy hadn't hired me 20 years ago, I wouldn't have known Jascha D. Gelman.  I know he was there today, in a special way, celebrating with us (I think he made Sandy go back to the wine list - in fact I know he did).  

 Sandy - thanks for 20 years, making me part of your life,  knowing Jascha D., Gabe and Judith I.,  your cats, and being there for me.

                        Love,
                                    Bonnie

 

Bonnie Cleland

 

Bonnie Cleland 12/4/99


I remember Jascha D. taking me out to lunch as a "thank you" for typing a paper for him when he was at U of M. He had on a navy blue, (rather faded) T-shirt, shorts and a bandana on his head. The minute he showed up at the office, we started laughing. We drove over to Houlihan's, across the street from the office, in his van, and proceeded to laugh for over an hour. I remember telling Sandy I never laughed so hard in my life - I knew Jascha D. was fun to be around, but from that day on, every time I talked to him or saw him, it put a smile on my face. I sure miss my pal.

 

Bonnie Cleland

 

Bonnie Cleland


To: Sandy, Judy and Gabe

I feel very fortunate to have known Jascha D. He was very special and I can't think of one single person who didn't love him. He made me laugh every day at the office, either in person or on the phone when he called. You just couldn't be in a bad mood when he was around - it was impossible. It was like the sun came out the second he walked in with that beautiful smile of his.

I loved doing his dictation - he always started out his tapes with one single word or two, something that we had been talking about, usually food, like "porcini mushrooms" or "strip steak", then there would be a second or two of silence and he would say "Okay Bonnie . . ." and continue on with what he needed to dictate on a file. He always had a million comma's in his letters. I called him the "comma king". He would go over the mail with Sandy and have a pile of filing and he would always tell me "I'll do this filing, I'm not going to give it to you." Well, the filing just kept piling up and we decided we were going to have a "filing party" and I was going to help him get it done. As he added more to his pile, he would say to me "I'm going to schedule that filing party real soon, real soon. It will be fun."  We never did get to schedule it and one day, a few weeks ago, I went in his office and filed that whole huge pile of filing for him and it wasn't fun because he wasn't there. Sometimes when I walk past his office I have to back up and look at his desk a second time because I thought I saw him sitting there.

He called me "silly Bonnie" all the time and even made up this crazy little song about "silly Bonnie" that he would sing back in his office. We always talked about restaurants and cooking and wine. If I told him about something I had at a restaurant that was really good, he would say "I have a recipe for that" and the next day a cookbook would be on my desk with the page marked that the recipe was on. He would say to me "you can go ahead and copy that recipe and you can go through the whole book and copy anything you think you would like, but you can't take the book home" and we would both laugh. One day we were talking about football and he told me that he loved to go to sports bars because they had so many televisions with different games on . . . he said he wished his head could spin around like an owl so he could watch all the games and never have to physically turn his body around.  Who else would have come up with something like that? If he was going to meet a female at lunch or after work, he would come to me and say "does my face look greasy?" and we would both laugh, he would take a tissue and wipe his face off and away he would go. That became a joke and whenever a female would call for him, I would say to him "wipe the grease off your face, there's a female on the phone for you". He knew I liked apples and would cut out articles or recipes for me about apples. He knew I liked E-Bay on the internet and cut out an article for me about auctions on the internet, then every five minutes after he gave it to me, asked me if I had read it yet. We have "bagel day" every Thursday in the office, which used to consist of bagels, butter and cream cheese. When Jascha D. started working with us, "bagel day" turned into "gourmet bagel day", now consisting of bagels, cream cheese, butter, two flavors of hummus, sliced tomatoes and sliced cucumbers.  He constantly teased me about my having dinner at Lino's restaurant. He would say "You and Brent eat there every night" or "What did you and Brent have for dinner at Lino's last night?" He wanted to have dinner there so he asked me to get him a menu so he could "study it" before he actually ever went. When I got the menu for him, he studied it and told me what I should be getting when I went. I wish he could have gone there for dinner with us.  Brent and I toast him every time we eat there.  

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about Jascha D. I asked Brent, one of the many times when I was feeling really sad about Jascha D., why this had to happen and Brent said "I don't have an answer for you, the only thing I can imagine is that God needed another angel." I'm not a very religious person, but I think he must be right.

Jascha D. - My special friend, I love you and will miss you forever.

Bonnie Cleland

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